decker rd |
On one particular day, we had to go to an appointment an hour and a half away for Abby, and Millie was a rockstar! This meant we had to stop for lunch, but the prospect of Millie and Abby in a restaurant by myself was right up there with licking the doorknob at the doctor's office on the way out... no, thank you!
Dramatic? Not really! Somedays I feel like the ambassador for special needs and other days, I'm capable of biting the head off of anyone who looks at us cross-eyed or maybe even looks at us at all. I'm not proud of it, but it is a fact I'm aware of and aim to avoid contact with other humans on the "not going to play well with others" sort of days.
This day was the latter. I was tired of being hit, pinched, and pulled by Abby the entire one and a half hour trip to the doctor's office. Adding to the fun of a regular appointment, this one was particularly hard. Pretty sure it sucked a few years off of my life with the reality of a seventeen-year-old special needs child who will never be adulting. It's really too much to take in by oneself. I wanted to crawl up in a dark room and have a well-deserved pity party, not go to a restaurant! I was barely feeling sane enough to drive back home from Columbia, let alone take on dining out. I was hoping Millie would forget in the chaos, but Daddy had lovingly reminded her of the "fun day" last night before bed... nice SELL Daddy!
Abby had "Houdini-ed" out of her restraints and could reach me in the car before we even pulled out of the parking lot... UGH! It was going to be a long, painful ride home. I know she isn't trying to hurt me, but pinching, scratching and hair pulling are painful regardless of the intent.
On a necessary public service side note... I found out my smartphone is smarter than I knew as I redirected my guy, Siri with an Austrailian accent who calls me "Love", to get me to the nearest Chick-fil-a. Did you know Siri could do that? In maps, I asked him to redirect me and he did. I'm easily amused, so it temporarily lifted my spirits enough to put a smile on my face and get me to pull in to the much-anticipated lunch.
I took a picture of the location bc I knew I'd forget |
Big breath...
Going anywhere with Abby is akin to dragging a stubborn donkey around. She either needs to be pulled in the right direction, restrained from taking off in the wrong direction or grabbing anyone or anything in her path. We're like a circus act without the stunts, unless you include me jumping around her like a crazy woman trying to keep her from pulling on strangers. She really is no respecter of people. She pulls on all equally regardless of size, gender, or race. That's beautifully politically correct, right? And her "vocalizing" (sounds way better than random screaming) gets the attention of those who may have missed our walking-hug-drag procession in line. I try to smile as we become the entertainment and wait our turn to order as if everyone wasn't staring at us.
I was wrestling Abby through the line, holding her in place while ordering and attempting to keep her octopus arms from tearing their signs and clearing off the counters loaded with hot food! I was sweating from the process when I remembered another reason why I love Chick-fil-a, they acted as if nothing was out of the ordinary and took my order. Actually, it was "their pleasure" to do so!
Millie doesn't quite get Abby still being in diapers but she understands helping her eat! |
I urged Millie to quickly start eating because Abby eats like it's a race to stuff as much food into her mouth as quickly as possible. Surely she'd win an eating contest if speed was the goal. Our family knows once the food is gone, we are all done eating whether our food is gone or not. Either we leave or we keep feeding her our food because that is the scope of her world. We do work on it, but being able to eat in public is a big deal... baby steps. I did not feel up to working on that particular skill that day.
"Happy Dance" for ice cream |
Becuase not all fast food restaurants are created equal, Chick-fil-a clientele isn't either. As we finished up our lunch, an employee brought us a dish of ice cream. Some fellow diner anonymously bought us ice cream. They never stopped to say anything but just blessed us because they noticed and wanted to. I could've cried on the spot!
If that wasn't' enough another employee asked if she could bring my girls little-stuffed cows they had in the back. Um... yes! Millie was in love and another nice gesture was just too much!
She hugged the cow on her own... no posing because I'm not that good |
Indeed, life with Abby is a bit overwhelming, but her crazy is at the very least matched but usually exceeded by the blessings! We may get stared at more than anyone else, but we also get doted on by perfect strangers more than most. It is truly humbling, but once again the hard of that day was brightened by the love we were shown by strangers at a Chick-fil-a!